Hello, everyone. Hello, USA ( you are my top readers, thank you so much ❤ ). As I was googling, I came across this article. I’m stressing this again and I will stress it many more times, BPD is not a life sentence. Don’t believe that you will suffer like this forever, there are medication and therapy. They work wonders. At one point, I had major depression, BPD, and psychosis. I’ve hit rock bottom. I’m telling you there is a light at the of the tunnel, even if you don’t see it.
As the article clearly states:
“One of the most harmful misconceptions about BPD is that it is a life sentence—that people with BPD will struggle with the disorder for their entire lives, and that little can be done about it. The term “personality disorder” does not help the situation, as it implies that there is something fundamentally flawed with an individual’s personality, or who they are as a person.
In fact, there are many reasons for hope. First and foremost, studies have found that rates of recovery from BPD are much higher than previously thought. In one of the longest studies on BPD, Dr. Mary Zanarini and colleagues found that, over 10 years following hospitalization:
- 86% of people with BPD stopped meeting criteria for BPD for at least four years
- 50% of people recovered completely (as shown by no longer meeting BPD criteria and having good social and work functioning)”
I believe I have been having BPD symptoms since I was 19. At 33, with medication, talking to my psychiatrist and almost no therapy. To be honest, more self-help than therapy, much more. I didn’t have a session for months and my last session was one month ago. It should be two times a month but now I definitely need 4 times a month.
Anyway, the article talks about how difficult it is for some people, in some areas, to get effective treatment like DBT. I can give you an example, in my country DBT isn’t free and psychologists can be (under our universal healthcare). That is an obstacle to most people which I find very unfair. If you are rich, you are committed to a psychiatric 5-star hotel and after you finish, you can have a vacation and then return to work. Maybe you don’t work at all. If you are poor, it’s very straightforward: out of the psych ward, back to work. People should have time to heal, relax and reflect. I believe it’s inhumane. For example, I take a monthly injection and it costs around 20 euros. There are people taking a terrible injection (but effective against symptoms), pre-historic medicine, really. Why you ask? It costs 1 euro and there are no alternatives. When the nurse told me this, I felt very sad and outraged. One more reason to be grateful for what I have and one more reason to hate how the system is built.
The article also talks about the stigma around BPD. I can’t really tell everyone that I have BPD and people that I know are sometimes condescending to me ( it doesn’t happen often and some people respect me completely). If like me, you are an addict and have BPD, you’re practically done socially. Unless you find good and understanding people, that sincerely like you and enjoy your company.
“People jump to many conclusions about people with BPD, assuming that they are difficult to deal with, angry, clingy, out of control, likely to be violent, untreatable, down-and-out and/or unable to hold a job. Most of these assumptions are simply incorrect. Some of the people with BPD that I’ve known are among the most courageous, passionate, interesting and compassionate people I have met. If we are blinded by our stereotypes and assumptions about people with BPD (or any other mental illness), we might not even notice the many strengths and positive assets they have to build upon.”
Never forget this. You are valid, you are loved and not everyone misunderstands you.
You have positive traits, here in this reblogged post you can read them and the article is very clear about them. We need to be empowered by our situation and use the positive traits in our benefit. Being passionate allows us to completely surrender ourselves to jobs or hobbies that we love. Are you artistic? Try poetry, drawing, painting, collages, whatever. Just keep yourself occupied and find a purpose. Finding a purpose is very important for recovery. I think my purpose right now is to write about mental health and my journey. I’m on a therapeutic journey of struggle and self-discovery.